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My grand daughter is three years old on Christmas Eve. From since I can remember she has always seemed different to other babies/children. Some of the examples are she has to close all the doors upstairs before she will come down. If you try to stop her she will cry and throw herself around. This can go on for 45 mins to an hour. If you try to talk to her she is vacant behind the eyes and you can not connect to her. She will complete a pattern of what looks like self soothing which would appear that she is trying to calm herself. She will stroke her face then her arms and then her legs and continue the pattern. She will throw herself around but she is so strong it is hard to hold her. She is completely distraught and exhausted by the end if it. If I ask her why she has been screaming she says she does not know and that she does not like screaming. She screams in the middle of the night but is still asleep when you go to her. She does other things like undo and redo her shoes before she puts them on. She must clip the pram straps once she is taken out. They appear to be rituals. She will pull clumps of her hair out when she has an episode and does not appear to feel any pain. She has ripped the skin down the side of her fingers until the are bleeding and again shows no sign of discomfort. She is advanced in counting, identifying colours, shapes, writing and she appears to have long conversations with you stringing 10 to 20 words together although some of the words are not clear. So one part of her is far more advanced than other children of her age. But the difficult behaviour side can happened up to twice a day. We have changed her diet and she has nothing with artificial colourings or preservatives along with cutting out milk as she appeared to crave it. This has had limited effect. She can be happy and jolly one day and exceptionally difficult on others. We have involved the health visitor and doctor who are very dismissive that there is anything wrong. My daughter is at her wits end and does not know what to do for the best. I read some of the notes on chemical imbalance and the advances you are making in your research. I would be grateful if you could suggest any ways in which we can help her in this early stage of her life. We can not keep treating her like children who are having a tantrum because I am not sure she can help her behaviour and some how we must find a way to help her engage in the world without treating her like she is a petulant children. I apologise for my lack of ability in the written word. I am myself dyslexic. My email address is I would welcome any advice or suggestions as I do not believe the British health system will identify there is a problem until she is much older and I worry that we shod be making allowances to enable her to cope rather treating her as if it is the terrible two's. Kind regards. Tania


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